TLDR
- Caring what other people think isn’t keeping you safe. It’s keeping you safe from your own self, your fear of rejection and your fear of failure, which means it’s keeping you from everything that’s actually possible for you.
- Your birth chart doesn’t change, but how you respond to it does. It’s a tool for inner knowing, not a fixed sentence.
- Your sun sign is the light you were born to carry. It’s your “I am” energy and your fullest expression of yourself.
- Heavy placements in House 1 (the self), House 7 (partnerships and the other), and House 10 (public image and career) are where caring what people think tends to show up.
- You heal it by pairing a self-coaching rhythm with your actual witchery practice, working with the moon, the elements, and the wheel of the year, so the inner work has somewhere to land.
Here’s the thing. If you care a whole heck of a lot about what other people think, and what they think about you, this one’s for you. I’m Sara, founder of The Sisters Enchanted, and we’ve spent ten years helping women heal what we call the witch wound. This is part two of a two-part series. In part one I talked about the witch wound, intentional invisibility, and caring what other people think. You can go back for that one, or you can start right here, no homework required.
Today I want to talk about astrology, specifically what’s hiding in your birth chart. Because caring what other people think feels like a safety tool. It feels like it’s protecting you. But it’s not protecting you from anything dangerous. It’s protecting you from your own self, your fear of rejection, your fear of failure. And that is not keeping you safe from harm. It’s keeping you from possibility. From the creative experiences, the pleasure, and the brain space you’d get back if you cared just a little bit less.
DEFINITION: THE WITCH WOUND (AROUND CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK)
The witch wound around caring what other people think is a protective pattern that feels like it’s keeping you safe but is actually keeping you safe from your own self, from your fear of rejection and your fear of failure. Instead of shielding you from danger, it blocks you from possibility, creativity, and pleasure. At The Sisters Enchanted we use astrology as one tool to expose this pattern so it can heal.
What does astrology have to do with caring what other people think?
Astrology is one of the tools we use here at The Sisters Enchanted, inside our Holistic Witchery program, to help women understand themselves at a cosmic DNA level. We were all born with a birth chart, and it holds a lot of information about who we are. Used well, it’s a beautiful tool for inner knowing, self-reflection, more presence, and yes, repairing the witch wounds that hold us back.
And caring what people think is one of those wounds. It’s the thing that has you afraid to use your tarot cards. Afraid to let your mother-in-law or your girlfriend spot your book of full moon rituals on the shelf. So you hide it. You compartmentalize. You keep the witchy you in one box and the acceptable you in another. But compartmentalizing isn’t tidy. It’s fragmentation. And when you fragment your energy, you’re not a whole person, which means you don’t get to experience the whole beauty of the world from a place of wholeness.
“Compartmentalizing is fragmentation. And when you fragment your energy, you are not a whole person.”
— Sara Walka, Founder of The Sisters Enchanted
Does your birth chart change over time?
No, your birth chart does not change, but your relationship to it absolutely does. There’s a misconception that your chart is some permanent thing that can only ever be read one way. The chart itself is fixed, sure. But how you respond to the information, what you react to, what you can learn from it, all of that shifts as you grow.
Think about a blueberry muffin. A blueberry muffin is always a blueberry muffin. But maybe as you age you realize it’s actually way too sweet for you, that your body doesn’t tolerate it like it used to. The muffin didn’t change. Your relationship to it did. Your birth chart works the same way. The placements stay put. What you do with them grows up alongside you.
What does your sun sign reveal about who you are?
Your sun sign is the light you were born to carry into this world. It’s your “I am” energy, your fullest expression of yourself. Whether you’re an Aries, a Taurus, a Gemini, a Cancer, or any of the twelve, that’s a wonderful place to start, not just for the witch wound but for the bigger question: who can you be at your fullest expression when you’re not worried about what other people think?
I’m a Sagittarius. On the light side, I bring adventure, fun, and optimism. On the shadow side, I can get a little ethereal, a little all over the place, the let’s-do-this-and-this-and-this-because-why-not energy that’s honestly too much sometimes. There’s a light and a shadow to everything. But the light is where you live at your fullest, and that’s the part worth getting curious about.
DEFINITION: YOUR SUN SIGN
Your sun sign is the placement in your birth chart that represents the light you were born to carry, also described as your “I am” energy and your fullest expression of self. Every sign carries both a light expression and a shadow expression. Working with the light side is a starting point for asking who you can become when you stop performing for other people’s approval.
Which houses in your birth chart show you care too much what others think?
Houses 1, 7, and 10 are the three places to look. Every birth chart is made up of twelve houses, and heavy placements (a planet or a few planets) in any of these three tend to amplify how much you orient around other people’s opinions. Here’s how each one shows up.
| House | What heavy placements can indicate |
|---|---|
| House 1 (The Self) |
Ruled by your rising or ascendant sign. With a lot going on here, you may feel like all eyes are on you and that you’re constantly being judged and picked apart, your whole self under inspection. The pressure to get it right and overthink everything is real. |
| House 7 (Partnerships + the Other) |
This is the house of everyone outside you. Heavy placements can make you more concerned with other people’s perspectives, points of view, and opinions, and you may find your sense of identity woven into how you relate to others. |
| House 10 (Public Image + Career) |
This is how the collective sees you, your reputation and public image. Different from House 1: House 1 is the “I feel everyone’s watching me” perspective, while House 10 is the actual outside view of you at work and in the world. Heavy placements mean you care more about public perception and reputation. |
So if you’ve got strong placements in any of these three, that’s your invitation to ask: why is it that I have such a tough time letting this down? The information isn’t the cure on its own. But it’s what gets you unstuck and out of the pattern that brought you here.
DEFINITION: HOUSES 1, 7, AND 10
In astrology, House 1 is the house of the self (ruled by the rising sign), House 7 is the house of partnerships and the other, and House 10 is the house of public image and career. Heavy planetary placements in these houses are the spots The Sisters Enchanted points to when exploring the witch wound of caring what other people think.
How do you actually stop caring what other people think?
You stop by building a self-coaching rhythm and pairing it with your witchery practice, so the inner work has somewhere real to land. Getting more information about your chart empowers you, but information alone won’t free you. What frees you is talking yourself through the moment when other people’s opinions feel like they’re holding you back, and then anchoring that to your personal practice.
That means working with the elements. Working with the moon. Creating rhythms around how you tend your own energy. Asking thoughtful questions with your tarot. These are the support structures that take what you learn about yourself and let you actually apply it out in your external world. When you build rituals and ceremonies into everyday life, and you keep coming back to the rhythm of the moon cycles and the greater wheel of the year, that rhythm becomes the thing that holds you. It reminds you that you are worthy and whole and loved and good, exactly as you are.
DEFINITION: A SELF-COACHING RHYTHM
A self-coaching rhythm is the practice of talking yourself through the challenge of feeling held back by what other people think, then bridging that inner work to outer spiritual practice, working with the moon, the elements, ritual, and tarot. It’s how a Sisters Enchanted approach moves self-reflection from the logic mind into lived, embodied practice.
This is especially true for witchy women who are highly successful and look perfectly normal on the outside, but who carry a deep interest in the metaphysical and their inner world. Bridging the logic mind with self-coaching, and then bridging both to outer spiritual practice, is what makes the ritual feel powerful. And the powerful ritual is what supports all the inner work you’re doing to stop caring so much.
Why is caring what other people think such a waste of your energy?
Because your time and your energy are two resources that do not renew, and caring what people think burns through both for nothing. When you look at time as energy, every minute spent stewing about what you said yesterday is gone. Every minute spent wondering if you offended someone, or replaying whether you could have changed an interaction to be better received, gets you exactly nowhere. You can’t go back in time and change it. The thing already happened.
“Your time and your energy are two resources that do not renew.”
— Sara Walka, Founder of The Sisters Enchanted
So the move is to drop in and get present. That’s one of the lessons of the moon, and one of the lessons of the wheel of the year. When we combine our witchery practices with the work of changing how we think about ourselves, that’s how we heal the witch wound and finally let go of caring so damn much what other people think.
This is when you get to feel free. Tarot cards on your desk. Crystals out in the open. Telling everybody you’re taking some time for your full moon ritual. Building a morning ceremony that sets you up for the day ahead. When you make space for that in your life, you stop caring so much. And here’s the loop of it: you also kind of have to stop caring in order to make the space. So you do it all together, at the same time.
So go check your houses 1, 7, and 10. Look at your sun sign and the light you were born to carry in this lifetime. I’ve spent ten years on this work, and it’s my mission to help as many women as possible heal the witch wound for themselves, so they can live longer lives that feel like pleasure and joy and delight, all wrapped into a package that feels authentic and good. I want that for you too. Stay magic, enchanted sister.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the witch wound around caring what other people think?
The witch wound around caring what other people think is a protective pattern that feels like safety but is really keeping you safe from your own self, your fear of rejection and your fear of failure. Sara Walka of The Sisters Enchanted teaches that instead of protecting you from danger, it blocks you from possibility, creativity, and pleasure, and it eats up the brain space you could be using to actually run your life. It’s the wound that has you hiding your tarot cards or your book of full moon rituals so other people won’t see them. That hiding is a kind of compartmentalizing, and compartmentalizing is fragmentation. When you fragment your energy like that, you don’t get to move through the world as a whole person. Healing it starts with naming the pattern, often through tools like astrology, and then bridging that awareness to a real spiritual practice.
Does your birth chart change over time?
No, your birth chart does not change, but your relationship to it does. According to Sara Walka of The Sisters Enchanted, the chart itself is permanent in the sense that the placements stay fixed, but how you respond to the information, what you react to, and what you learn from it all shift as you grow as a person. She compares it to a blueberry muffin: the muffin is always a blueberry muffin, but as you age you might realize it’s too sweet for you or that your body doesn’t tolerate it the way it used to. The food didn’t change, your relationship to it did. Your chart works the same way, which is why it’s a living tool for inner knowing and self-reflection rather than a fixed sentence you’re stuck with for life.
What does your sun sign tell you?
Your sun sign is the light you were born to carry into this world, also described as your “I am” energy and your fullest expression of yourself. Sara Walka of The Sisters Enchanted explains that whatever your sign, Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, or any of the twelve, it points to who you can be at your fullest when you’re not worried about other people’s opinions. Every sign has both a light expression and a shadow expression. Sara, a Sagittarius, brings adventure, fun, and optimism on the light side, and can get ethereal or scattered on the shadow side. The point isn’t to fixate on the shadow. It’s to get curious about the light, because that’s where you live at your fullest expression, and it’s a natural starting place for exploring the witch wound of caring what people think.
What do houses 1, 7, and 10 mean in astrology?
Houses 1, 7, and 10 are the three birth chart houses Sara Walka of The Sisters Enchanted points to when exploring the witch wound of caring what other people think. House 1 is the house of the self, ruled by your rising or ascendant sign; heavy placements here can make you feel like all eyes are on you and you’re constantly being judged. House 7 is the house of partnerships and the other; heavy placements can make you more concerned with other people’s perspectives and can weave your identity into how you relate to others. House 10 is the house of public image and career; it’s how the collective actually sees you, your reputation and public image, which is different from House 1’s internal “I feel watched” experience. If you have strong placements in any of these three, that’s your cue to ask why this pattern is so hard to set down.
How does astrology help heal the witch wound?
Astrology helps heal the witch wound by giving you information about yourself that gets you unstuck from the pattern. Sara Walka of The Sisters Enchanted uses it inside the Holistic Witchery program as a tool for inner knowing, self-reflection, and more presence. Looking at your sun sign and your placements in houses 1, 7, and 10 shows you where caring what others think tends to live in your chart. But the information alone isn’t the cure. The healing happens when you pair that self-knowledge with a self-coaching rhythm and a real witchery practice, working with the moon, the elements, ritual, and tarot. Astrology opens the door by naming the pattern. Your everyday practice is what walks you through it and helps you apply what you’ve learned out in the real world.
How do you stop caring what other people think?
You stop caring what other people think by building a self-coaching rhythm and anchoring it to your witchery practice. Sara Walka of The Sisters Enchanted teaches that information empowers you, but it’s not enough on its own. The real shift comes from talking yourself through the moments when other people’s opinions feel like they’re holding you back, then bridging that inner work to outer practice: working with the elements, the moon, and the wheel of the year, building rituals and ceremonies into everyday life, and asking thoughtful questions with tarot. That rhythm reminds you that you’re worthy and whole and loved exactly as you are. It also frees up the time and energy you were burning on what people think, two resources that don’t renew. Freedom looks like keeping your tarot cards and crystals out in the open instead of hidden, and you make that space and stop caring at the same time.