With the Sunday Coffee Chat Replays we are always encouraging you to take control of your life and set a clear vision for the week ahead. This isn’t just about practical planning; it’s about aligning your actions with your deepest desires and intentions.
How do you want to feel?
Let’s make it so!
Plus, in this episode, we’re focusing on how seeking acceptance and validation from others can impact this alignment and keep you from getting where you want to go.
e Power of Vision Casting
Let’s start with our regular practice: vision casting for the week ahead. Think about the intention you set for this year, this lunar cycle, or this season. If you haven’t set one, that’s okay—now is the perfect time to start. Ask yourself: how do you want to feel? This baseline intention is crucial for aligning your actions with your desired way of being.
From here, look at your calendar for the week. Fill it in with all your commitments and activities. You’ll organize your time and get a clear picture as to whether or not you are aligning your actions with your vision.
For example, if you want to feel passionate and bold but your calendar is filled with monotonous tasks, it’s time to reassess.
Aligning Your Schedule with Your Intentions
When planning your week, start with the immovable objects—work hours, appointments, and any fixed commitments. Once these are in place, assess your energy and capacity for additional activities.
For example, if your week is already packed with work and family responsibilities, adding a major project might lead to overwhelm. Instead, prioritize and focus on what truly matters.
This approach helps prevent overcommitting and ensures you have the energy to fulfill your priorities. Remember, it’s okay to have weeks with fewer commitments. This creates space for unexpected events and self-care, maintaining your overall well-being.
Seeking Acceptance and Validation
A significant barrier to living in alignment with your intentions is the desire for acceptance and validation from others. We often make decisions based on whether we feel they will make us belong or be accepted. For instance, you might hesitate to schedule a solo hike because others might deem it unsafe or unusual. Or, at work, you might conform to group norms, even if they don’t align with your personal goals.
Ask yourself: is there something you’re hesitant to add to your calendar because you fear judgment? Or are you doing something solely because it brings you external validation, even though it doesn’t make you happy? Identifying these patterns is crucial for making choices that truly resonate with your inner self.
The Trap of Self-Validation
Similarly, seeking validation can become a trap, keeping us stuck in unhelpful patterns. We might use our circumstances to justify why we can’t achieve our goals, seeking validation from others to reinforce these beliefs. This can lead to a cycle of inaction and self-doubt.
Goodbye vision and hello more-of-the-same.
To break free from this, it’s important to differentiate between validating your feelings and using them as excuses to avoid growth. For instance, if you’re cluttered because you’re busy, acknowledge the challenge but also find small ways to tackle it. Set a timer for five minutes of tidying between activities, gradually creating a more organized space without overwhelming yourself.
Practical Tips for Vision Casting
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Set Realistic Goals: Understand how long tasks actually take by timing them. This helps in planning your day more accurately and avoiding overcommitment.
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Leave White Space: Allow for buffer times between tasks. This flexibility helps manage unexpected events without derailing your entire plan.
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Prioritize: Focus on three main priorities for the week. This ensures your energy is directed towards what truly matters, preventing burnout and frustration.
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Use Timers: For overthinkers, setting a timer to limit the time spent on certain tasks can be incredibly effective. It keeps you moving forward without getting stuck in perfectionism.
Embracing Self-Validation
Learning to validate yourself without relying on external sources is a powerful practice. It involves acknowledging your feelings and experiences while also challenging yourself to move beyond them. For example, if you feel undervalued at work, validate your feelings but also explore proactive steps to address the situation.
Remember, it’s not anyone else’s job to validate you (nor is it yours to validate someone else). This self-reliance fosters inner strength and resilience, helping you step into your power, purpose, and possibility.
Reflection and Action
As we wrap up today’s coffee chat, I invite you to reflect on your upcoming week. Are your plans in alignment with your intentions? Are you making choices based on acceptance and validation from others? What steps can you take to ensure you’re living authentically and purposefully?
If you’re part of our Holistic Witchery program, remember to leverage the tools and teachings we offer.
Journal Prompt: Reflect on a recent success or achievement in your life. How did it make you feel to be recognized for your efforts? Now, consider the role of humility in your journey. How can you celebrate your accomplishments while remaining grounded and connected to those who support you? Write about ways you can use your success to inspire and uplift others, ensuring that your victories contribute to a sense of community and shared growth.
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